Transsexual Tragedy


“No, of course, What really matters is the blame, Somebody to blame Fine, if that’s the thing you enjoy, Placing the blame, If that’s the aim, Give me the blame." -from 'Into the Woods' by Stephen Sondheim’ There’s a time for mourning and a time for finger pointing, and generally they shouldn’t mingle. Case in point: The recent and well publicized suicide of 17 year old Joshua Alcorn, a high school transsexual going by the name “Leelah”, who posted a farewell message  via Tumblr on December 28, deliberately timed to be displayed Continue Reading

Releasing Your Wounder


We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in the way we relate, or the pain we feel. I've learned a lot by examining my own, and those of the people I've been blessed to work with over the years. Continue Reading

Houston, Homosexuality and Heavy Handedness


Since the Ebola scare is today’s top story, there’s a secondary item you may be unaware of: the City Council of Houston has subpoenaed the sermons of local pastors to review what they’ve been saying about homosexuality. Under any circumstances that’s at least outrageous; at most, frightening. But the events leading to this heavy-handedness only underscore what an abusive, arrogant move it really is. “Houston, We Have a Problem” It all began last June, when the Houston City Council passed the Human Equal Rights Ordinance (HERO) also known Continue Reading

Hear Ye

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My wife says I never listen to her. At least I think that’s what she said. ~Author Unknown Bill Cosby called it The Weapon, a technique husbands instinctively catch onto early in marriage, and use as needed. The wife says something he’d rather ignore, like “Did you take the trash out?” or “We need to talk about taxes.” His mind is elsewhere, or he’s watching his favorite TV show, or she’s brought up an inconvenient topic. So instead of responding, he just stares straight ahead, pretending not to hear, hoping she’ll give up. Cosby said this Continue Reading

Assessing Matthew Vines “God and the Gay Christian” Pt.V


“The messages he had received referred to articles or news items which for one reason or another it was thought necessary to alter, or, as the official phrase had it, to rectify.” -George Orwell, 1984  When plain truth condemns what we love, our choices are few. We can abandon what we love in obedience to the truth, we can rebel openly against the truth, or we can attempt to re-write the truth to appease our conscience and silence our critics. When we choose Option 3 we join Winston, the main character in Orwell’s classic 1984 quoted above, Continue Reading

Assessing Matthew Vines’ “God and the Gay Christian” Part III – Jesus and Homosexuality


The heart is an artist that paints over what profoundly disturbs us, leaving on the canvas a less dark, less sharp version of the truth. -Dean Koontz, Forever Od When you love someone, you hope they're right. If they’re wrong, you can confront their wrong while praying they come to see the truth, or you can revisit the truth itself and see if might reconsider, be flexible, change its stance. The notorious story of comedian W.C. Fields comes to mind, in which someone sees him on his death bed perusing the Bible and asks him what he’s Continue Reading

The Phil Robertson Controversy: No More Ducking the Issue


Apart from a radio interview with Bible Answer Man I’ve been ducking the Phil Robertson/Duck Dynasty controversy for over a week now, first because I didn’t want to get into it on the brink of Christmas, and second, because so many others were blogging on it. But now that Robertson has been reinstated following a suspension during a period when no filming took place (sorta like suspending a student during Spring break) and the whole episode seems to be winding down, there are aspects of the story I’d like to look at. To recap what you Continue Reading

Bless the Jerk

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There’s no way to navigate a life without getting bumped, bruised or outright wounded by people. No one’s exempt, and generally, the closer we are to people the more capacity they have to wound us. There’s the challenge of intimacy: I want to be known and loved; I don’t want to be injured. And good trying to get the one without the other.  Where there’s closeness, there’ll be, among other things, wounds. Continue Reading


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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. —   One on the axioms our Personal Intercommunications instructor drilled into us in college was that you cannot not communicate. Continue Reading

The Unscheduled Appointment

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — The Unscheduled Appointment I love what I do for a living, and count myself hugely blessed when I remember how rare it is for your work and your first love to be the same. I come alongside men getting serious about their holiness, I write on subjects that matter to me, and I speak to churches and conferences, all of which I’d do as a volunteer if I had to do something else for income. My work is my passion, so I’m a pathetic brat if (and when) Continue Reading