Staying Power


“By our Heavenly Father and only because of God, only because of God. We're like other couples. We do not get along perfectly; we do not go without arguments and, as I call them, fights, and heartache and pain and hurting each other.  But a marriage is three of us.” -Christian entertainer Barbara Mandrell, answering the question of why her marriage works   I know my wife loves me. But I think it’s taken more than that to keep her with me for 28 years. She also loves, and is obedient to, God. And that’s where a Christian marriage gets its Continue Reading

Of Headship and Headaches

Power Struggle

In the classic movie farce Some Like It Hot, Jack Lemmon, disguised as a woman, dances a tango with a gent who thinks Lemmon’s a lady, and a lovely one at that. But the man has one complaint. “You’re leading again!” he keeps pointing out. Accustomed to taking the lead as a male, Jack’s now finding it hard to dance as a follower. But unless one of them yields, the tango’s going nowhere. Continue Reading

“My Husband’s Not Gay” – Appreciation, Concerns, and Random Thoughts

My Husbands Not Gay

Update: Tomorrow, January 14, I will be discussing this on-air with radio host Kevin Bolling on his show Knowing the Truth. To hear the show tomorrow, click here     It was pretty bold of The Learning Channel to present last night’s show “My Husband’s Not Gay.” Continue Reading

Honey I Shrunk the Id

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They used to drum it into Psych students as a foundational truth – Freud’s Structural Hypothesis, the theory that our minds are composed of a triune entity called Id, Ego and Super-Ego. Continue Reading

A Puppy in the Aftermath

Of course I’m zoned out, aren’t you? Yesterday’s carbs have fully kicked in, and that alone constitutes a Christmas hangover. But there’s so much more contributing to what I often call the Aftermath, December 26, when everything sags, caves, goes to bed. The annual combination of family, worship, partying, binge eating, giving and getting creates a massive emotional and chemical high to recoup from, and normally the day after finds me numb and lethargic. Continue Reading

Beware the Grudge


A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. ~ Ruth Bell Graham Even on the best of football teams,  fumbles happen. Continue Reading

Hearing Aids


There’s a lot I can get away with in my house. I can leave dirty socks in my study, sing Motown classics to let off steam, eat peanut butter out of the jar, and occasionally watch CSI, none of which pleases Renee; all of which she tolerates. But of all the mortal sins I’ve learned to avoid, poor listening tops the list. She needs to be heard, and that’s not a “woman” thing, because so do I. We're in a partnership, and partners are expected to hear each other. If they don’t, it all unravels. It also gets contaminated, eventually, with Continue Reading


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Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife — -1Peter 3:7 I’m sure I know my wife better than anyone else could know her, which I get no props for. We’re 27 years married, after all, so if my working knowledge of the woman didn’t surpass anyone else’s, it would be a mighty indictment against me. So ask me practically anything about her and I can fill you in, though I won’t, but I could. I know her fully, not completely, but pretty thoroughly. And I am trying to honor her, daily, with Continue Reading

Something Weird Under My T-Shirt

This is not the same as Right-Guard Deodorant - But You Probably Knew That

We're so often clueless about what's really going on with the people we know. Continue Reading

Remembering Freedoms

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Hoping you’re having a wonderful, blessed celebration of the many freedoms we’ve been blessed with. Renee and I are enjoying, right along with you, a day long fest of friendship, crazy fun and lots of all the wrong kinds of food. Continue Reading