The Default Principle


When you discover an intense experience, it becomes yours. You adopt it, mentally and permanently. And once it’s adopted, it stays in your memory as a part of your experiential history. Continue Reading

When Truth Isn’t Enough


Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. - Romans 12:15   Continue Reading

Dining with the Difficult

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“Sometimes the best we can do is to remind each other that we're related for better or for worse...and try to keep the maiming and killing to a minimum.” -Rick Riordan, The Sea of Monsters It’s not always so joyful, this Christmas business. While plenty of us, myself included, relish the time of celebration and family, for others “family” is a painful concept. So painful, in fact, that for days leading up to December 25 they literally dread the annual family connection which the season requires. Continue Reading

Releasing Your Wounder


We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in the way we relate, or the pain we feel. I've learned a lot by examining my own, and those of the people I've been blessed to work with over the years. Continue Reading

Thinking it Through

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Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. – Philippians 4:8 We’re largely where we are today because of the decisions we’ve made. Not completely, I know, because plenty of things happen to us that are beyond our control. But so much in life – the state of our relationships, for example, or our spiritual Continue Reading

“Regrets, I’ve Had a Few —“

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“---but then again, too few to mention.” Or so crooned Frank Sinatra in his signature ballad “My Way.” And if that’s really true, more power to the guy. Me, I had a multitude of regrets by the time I was ten, so I certainly didn’t reach middle age with a clean slate. I’m pretty sure most of us have some sense of falling short of our own standards when we review our lives. And that’s where we walk a fine line between healthy regret and unproductive guilt. Continue Reading

Strangely Dim

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“The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness.” -Matthew 6: 22-23     Jesus’ teaching was nothing if not practical. Your hand offends you? Don’t mess with it; off with it. (Matthew 5:30) Continue Reading

Lessons from “A Christmas Carol” Part One: Unchained

"You have the power, as Paul says, to resist what you used to be in servitude to..."

This week leading up to Christmas we'll be looking at lessons we can glean from Dickens  A Christmas Carol. Hope you enjoy these! “I wear the chain I forged in life….I made it link by link, and yard by yard; I girded it on of my own free will, and of my own free will I wore it.” ― Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol Men don’t come into my office because of a bad decision they made. They come because of hundreds, even thousands of bad decisions, linked together to forge a chain they, like Jacob Marley from the Dickens story, gird and wear Continue Reading