Of Headship and Headaches

Power Struggle

In the classic movie farce Some Like It Hot, Jack Lemmon, disguised as a woman, dances a tango with a gent who thinks Lemmon’s a lady, and a lovely one at that. But the man has one complaint. “You’re leading again!” he keeps pointing out. Accustomed to taking the lead as a male, Jack’s now finding it hard to dance as a follower. But unless one of them yields, the tango’s going nowhere. Continue Reading

Pedaling Among the Weary


And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. -Galatians 6:9 I’m going into training for the April Bike-A-Thon our church sponsors every year. Proceeds go to send abused kids to camp, and I’m always blessed and proud to participate. Continue Reading

You Want Her to Trust You Again?

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The married man who uses porn, commits adultery, or gives himself to other kinds of unclean behavior breaks trust. He’s in a covenanted relationship with a woman he pledged himself to, probably with the best of intentions, but somewhere along the way he’s given himself permission to indulge. Sometimes there are problems in the marriage his wife is largely responsible for, and she’ll need to ‘fess up to that if things are to improve, but that can never excuse his sin. Other times (and I find this true more often than not) it’s a pretty good Continue Reading

At What Cost?


“ --- neither will I offer burnt offerings unto the LORD my God of that which doth cost me nothing.” - II Sam 24:24 “The battles that count aren't the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself - the invisible, inevitable battles inside all of us - that's where it's at.” -Jessie Owens, Olympic Gold Medalist This morning I offered my body up to God. Besides my wife, I really think He’s the only one who wants it, but from what I read above, He does. And somehow today the reason He does seems unusually clear: My body is essentially Continue Reading

“It Contains Adult Language —“

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Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. -Ephesians 4:29     We get warnings before watching certain movies on TV, explaining why a film is rated PG-13 or R. Often the rating is earned because of “adult language” – read ‘dirty words’ – so we’re prepared to hear expletive deleteds we normally would avoid. Continue Reading

World Vision: And the Hits (To Integrity) Just Keep On Comin’

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"I'm hoping this (decision to hire openly gay employees in same sex marriages) may inspire unity among others as well, to say how can we come together across some differences and still join together as brothers and sisters in Christ in our common mission of building the kingdom." -World Vision President Richard Stearns  Another one bites the dust. Christianity Today broke the story this afternoon that World Vision, the well known Christian charitable organization which has fostered sponsorship of needy children for over 60 years, is Continue Reading

Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wife?

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Make a generalization about men and women and someone will point out an exception, proving that generalizations are only generally accurate. Continue Reading

New Men’s Bible Study with Joe Dallas

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If you’re a guy in the Orange County area, let me invite you to a new Men’s Bible study I’ll be teaching at Newport Mesa Church in Costa Mesa. Beginning Wednesday March 5 from 7:00-8:30 PM, we’ll be doing a 15-week series on the Book of Romans, taking it verse by verse and learning more about our standing in grace, the struggle between the flesh and spirit, and our responsibilities as Christian men and citizens. We’d love to have you come! So if you’re interested, please contact me at [email protected] so we’ll know to expect you. The Continue Reading

The Writing on My Heart

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“I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.” -Jeremiah 31:33 Thirty years ago I decided to come out and be myself, to be true to my real nature, and to listen to my own authentic voice rather than those around me. So I said no to sexual sin, walked away from it, and determined by the grace of God never to practice it again. Continue Reading

Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” - I Thessalonians 5:18 I’m a Christian man who wrestles, on a fairly regular basis, with sexual temptation. That hardly puts me in a special category and, in fact, makes me nothing more than the average Joe. Those temptations don’t come because of deficits in my life, since I’m married to a wonderful and Continue Reading