The Intimate Enemy

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“Husbands, love your wives”, Paul admonishes in Colossians 3:19. Well, we’ve heard that before, but then he adds an interesting challenge: “—and be not bitter towards them.” Hmmm. As a former Pharisee, Paul had almost certainly been married at one time, then probably widowed. He knew something firsthand about men and women, and the dynamics that come between them, and from that knowledge sprang a command to men not to be bitter towards their wives – spoken, it seems, with the assumption that bitterness can be a common problem to husbands. Continue Reading

Not Interested. Thanks. Goodbye.

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It took me about four decades to perfect the art of brushing off pushy solicitors. Not that I begrudge anyone their means of making a living, but when I want something, I’ll go out shopping for it. I’ve no need for anyone to call me suggesting a product or service, and I have a particular dislike for telephone solicitors invading my home with their pitch. I’ve tried listening politely, only to have my politeness mistaken for weakness. I’ve tried venting my frustration at being interrupted by a sales call, only to hear that I’d be glad I was Continue Reading

Right Position, Wrong Attitude

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“The children of Israel have forsaken Your covenant, torn down Your altars, and killed Your prophets with the sword. I alone am left.” - Elijah, downcast and afraid, from I Kings 19:10 I'm struck by how easily we can swing between two critical errors: doctrinal sloppiness and self-righteousness. Continue Reading



Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure. (I John 3: 2-3) For me as a kid, nothing was more joyful, and at the same time more torturous, then waiting. Continue Reading

The Minimalist


“Men do not differ much about what things they call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.”  - G. K. Chesterton Over the years I’ve seen too many Christian husbands in my office who’ve perfected the art of minimizing. Continue Reading

Sufficient Evil


Sufficient for the day is the evil thereof. - Matthew 6:34 I know something’s wrong when I repeatedly wake up wondering how I’m ever gonna make it. Continue Reading

Jesus and Same-Sex Marriage


Recent well-publicized developments are causing many Christians to re-examine their position on homosexuality. A newly-formed group called Evangelicals for Marriage Equality is dedicated to creating dialogues within Bible believing churches on why we should support same sex marriage. Well known Christian artist Vicky Beeching recently “came out” as a Christin lesbian, joining similarly influential gospel artists who’ve come out as homosexual, including Ray Boltz, Jennifer Knapp and Clay Aiken. Popular author and speaker Rob Bell has announced Continue Reading

Still in the Dog House? Try This

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For the married man who's let his wife down, there can be a real helplessness that goes along with repentance. You know you’ve messed up, you’ve apologized every which way you can, and you’ve taken some concrete steps to get help. You’ve joined an accountability group, you’ve gotten yourself an accountability partner, you’re in counseling, and you make sure that on a daily basis you’re in the Word and praying. But you’re still in the dog house. She says she forgives you, then she rips into you with a fresh round of questions. (“How could you Continue Reading

Losing Heart, Acting Out

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Therefore, since we have this ministry, as we have received mercy, we do not lose heart. -II Corinthians 4:1 When the going gets tough, it’s easy to fall back on tried and true comforting devices. I think that’s one reason so many people who struggle with chemical dependency, alcoholism, or sexual sin, keep returning to their counter-productive behavior – not just because it’s so addictive, but because it has a proven track record of medicating the pain away. And these days, who hasn’t got some pain they’d like to medicate? Paul, I Continue Reading

A Little Help?


“Nevertheless, I tell you the truth, it is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you.” -Jesus to His followers, John 16: 7           The first time I read this verse I had to re-read it at least three times, it made so little sense to me. How could Christ’s disciples possibly be better off without Him? And for that matter, how could the world itself be better off without His physical presence in it? Well, sure, it’s not an either/or. We don’t choose Continue Reading