In our men’s Bible study earlier this year, our leader pointed out the number of believers who are, in essence, sitting on the gifts God gave them. They have capacities; they see problems their capacities could help solve; yet they sit on those capacities rather than using them. And the concept of hoarding came to my mind. Continue Reading


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Every Thursday we'll post something to do with relationships. Hope it's helpful. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.                                                                                                                                                                                                               -Charles Swindoll      Everyone agrees that brats are unattractive, but few of us seem to recognize our own Continue Reading


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Every Wednesday we’ll post something having to do with doctrine and purity. Hope it helps. Kept “You who are kept by the power of God — “ -I Peter 1:5 I was baptized 41 years ago, then served God fervently for 7 years, spent the next 6 backslidden, then came home to my Father’s house in 1984 where I’ve happily resided since. 41 years of knowing Him, 34 of them spent truly following Him, 7 in rebellion. That’s not what I call impressive. But consistency has never been my strong suit, so for me, even 2 years of going in the same Continue Reading

A Banquet Defiled

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Every Tuesday we'll post an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it helps. Several years ago, while teaching a marriage retreat seminar, I was taught an indelible lesson by one of the attending wives. We’d split the men and women up for a few sessions, and I was leading a group discussion with the wives about betrayal. Most of them had spouses who’d committed adultery, so they carried and expressed every variety of wounding. Midway through, one of them said, “Words fail me. Can I Continue Reading

I Just Called to Say ‘I Love You’ And I Mean It from the Bottom of My Mind

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Every Monday we'll post something to do with personal purity. Hope it helps. Your heart and mind sometimes disagree; your fate will depend on whose advice you follow." -Eugene Nathaniel Butler My heart never was a very good guide. It feels deeply, sure. But when it comes to genuinely loving my wife, sons, friends, or clients, my mind gives me an accurate picture of what’s in their best interests, more than my heart ever could. My heart wants everyone happy; my mind wants everyone getting what’s best for them. Sometimes the two go Continue Reading

Prayer’s Block


Anyone who’s tried writing can attest to the frustration of Writer’s Block. It happens when you sit your body in front of the computer, but your mind floats someplace else, refusing to put the harness on and get the flow going. It won’t enter in, and until it does, you stare at the screen, get up and down, play an online game, whatever. Volumes have been written about it, and plenty of despairing would-be authors lap up any advice they can get on how to beat the beast and make those first few paragraphs happen. Continue Reading

Slaughtering Hope

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Slaughtering Hope One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers exactly what it promised. Betrayal, though — betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. – Playright Steven Deitz Some wives are surviving. They’re not “fine” though they’ll probably use that convenient term to describe themselves, but they are in fact enduring their lives, one of their greatest challenges being to simply continue putting one foot ahead of the other. They apply themselves to the business of life with a smile fixed and in Continue Reading

You’re In Counseling

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Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly --- -Psalm 1:1     Today you’ll get some counseling. Most of you won’t have deliberately signed up for it, at least not in the usual way. Normally when we want counseling, we make an appointment with someone who (hopefully) has expertise guiding others, then go to their office for empathy and answers. That’s counseling in the traditional sense. Continue Reading

Married With Impact

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something about marriage and growth. Hope it helps. “ — and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” - I Peter 3:7 Two areas of married life couples often neglect are two of its most important aspects, to my thinking: the prayer bond and the sexual bond. Both are easy to ignore since they don’t demand immediate attention. The kids have to get to school; that can’t be put off. Meals need cooking; bills won’t politely wait; the house doesn’t care how tired you are, it wants Continue Reading

Pocket Points


Pocket Points (Abridged from my book Five Steps to Breaking Free from Porn)       I find myself “pocketing” certain points – small sayings, or bit-sized principles that can be useful – as a way of staying equipped to face daily stressors, temptations, and general challenges. And since Monday’s topic is Keeping it Clean, let me spell out a few “pocket points” that may help you maintain your integrity today. Continue Reading