ANNOUNCEMENT: New Book Release on Monday, “Five Steps to Breaking Free from Porn”


I’m excited to announce the July 1 release of my latest book “Five Steps to Breaking Free from Porn” through Harvest House publishers, and available in both physical and Kindle versions over Continue Reading

Of Pastors and Potshots

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — Of Pastors and Potshots “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena --- ” - Theodore Roosevelt The man in the arena does the heavy lifting while the spectators do the heavy talking. The talk’s usually by way of critique, which is fair enough, since the arena is, after all, a place Continue Reading

Jesus and Same Sex Marriage


In light of the Supreme Court’s recent decisions on same sex marriage, the question of what defines a marriage becomes more relevant than ever, and no doubt we’ll see a host of talking heads discussing the issue. I’m wondering how it would play out if Jesus was interviewed on the subject, so just for fun and, hopefully, a little clarity, here’s my take on how the interview would go based on what the Lord has already said about life, humanity and marriage. Continue Reading

Freely Forgiven


Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Freely Forgiven "A happy marriage is made up of two good forgivers." - Robert Quillen It’s discouraging to hear a couple say they want to improve their marriage, then continue to rehash each other’s sins. You can put the car in drive or reverse, but not both, and certainly not at the same time. If you want to keep the upper hand by repeating your partner’s past transgressions, go ahead and Continue Reading

Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” - I Thessalonians 5:18 I’m a Christian man who wrestles, on a fairly regular basis, with sexual temptation. That hardly puts me in a special category and, in fact, makes me nothing more than the average Joe. Those temptations don’t come because of deficits in my life, since I’m married to a wonderful and Continue Reading

A Strong Foundation of Grace

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Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts.  — A Strong Foundation of Grace “There is now therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.” -Philippians 1: 2 No condemnation, performance (or lack thereof) notwithstanding. God’s grace – His unmerited favor - will endure because It Is Finished doesn’t mean It’s A Good Start But Add To It. Sin has not been excused, of course. It’s been punished Continue Reading

Dropping the S-Bomb


Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — Dropping the S-Bomb  “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” - Proverbs 27:6 34 years ago I was hugely backslidden, having chosen to give myself over to sexual sin despite knowing better as a believer. Since I’d been in full time ministry before my fall, quite a few people had known me and were, I’m sure, perplexed and angry at my rebellion. Some of them contacted me, in person or by mail, trying Continue Reading

Facing The Fire


Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery.  — Facing the Fire “Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble; every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire ---” I Corinthians 3: 11-13 Any Christian feeling a call to service should get a good grasp on the parable of stewardship in Matthew 25:14-30. It describes a master commissioning his servants with differing amounts of money, then taking a long trip, Continue Reading

Spouse Building

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. --- Spouse Building I didn’t just get a wife 24 years ago. I was entrusted with one. More to the point, I was entrusted with Renee by Someone who created and redeemed her, and to whom I will someday answer for the way I’ve handled the lady He trusts me with. Husbands, let us not kid ourselves about this: We will answer to God for the way we’ve treated (as in, loved or not loved) the woman Continue Reading

Not Interested. Thanks. Goodbye.


Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining sexual integrity. Hope it helps. --- “Not Interested. Thanks. Goodbye.” It took me about four decades to perfect the art of brushing off pushy solicitors. Not that I begrudge anyone their means of making a living, but when I want something, I’ll go out shopping for it. I’ve no need for anyone to call me suggesting a product or service, and I have a particular dislike for telephone solicitors invading my home with their pitch. I’ve tried listening politely, only to have my politeness Continue Reading