Coming Out Manly

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Men coming out of the closet is business as usual. But pro athletes coming out of the locker room are another matter, one that’s making ripples and headlines everywhere.  As of this writing, at least one unnamed but presumably well-known professional player, from one of the four major sports, is about to drop the “I’m Gay” bomb. The National Hockey League, in anticipation of the big event, now officially offers its support to gay Americans in general and gay athletes in particular. Not to be outdone, the National Football League has chimed in, Continue Reading

Getting the Sound Bite Right

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Getting the Sound Bite Right “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a picture of silver.” -Proverbs 25:11 My lovely wife gets all the breaks. She’s warm and inviting, a friendly woman who extends herself easily. I’m reserved, somewhat shy, not good at small talk and, according to feedback I’ve gotten since I was 3 months old, not friendly looking. So everybody loves Renee, and wonders what she’s doing with Continue Reading

Another Spirit


Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Another Spirit But my servant Caleb, because he had another spirit with him, and hath followed me fully, him will I bring into the land where into he went; and his seed shall possess it. - Numbers 14:24 There’s a spirit within most people, I guess, which could properly be called the status quo spirit – the frame of mind and heart that settles, stays with what’s comfortably familiar, and never considers conquering new territory. It doesn’t dream; it Continue Reading

Prayers and Mercy for Rick Warren and Family


Pastor Rick Warren’s beloved son Matthew just took his life, leaving behind a devastated family and a multitude of unanswered, and probably unanswerable, questions. I’ve wrestled with depression for decades and was diagnosed, during one horrific period of my life, as suicidal. It’s been decades, but I’ll never consider myself immune to depression’s pull. When it hits, it’s a tsunami, and swimming against it seems all but fruitless. So to a point, I strongly empathize with Matthew, even as I want to kick his butt and say “Can’t you see Continue Reading

Obama’s Blunder; Was It Really That Bad? Renee and Joe at an Impasse

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Renee and I are having an argument and nobody’s budging. It’s not bad; we’re just at an impasse over President Obama’s remarks about Secretary of State Kamala Harris, his subsequent apology, and the media fallout. Now, as I understand it, The President, addressing a fundraising lunch in Atherton, California , referred to Ms. Harris as “the best-looking attorney general in the country." Uproar ensured; talking heads bobbed. No surprise there; that’s the kind of thing our 24 hour news cycle thrives on. But what did startle me was my dear Continue Reading

Seven Habits of Highly Effective Husbands

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Seven Habits of Highly Effective Husbands Renee and I celebrated the big 25 last week, a milestone to any couple. I like to see our marriage as its own entity, commenting on its development as it grows, so on our first anniversary I said, “Our marriage should be walking any day now.” On our tenth, I noted it would go through puberty soon; on the sixteenth I moaned it could drive; on the Continue Reading

Blew It Again


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Blew It Again Day has begun and I’m already sinning Help me to change this heart that I have Lord, help me taste of the grace that You’re giving. I want to be a spiritual man. - from “Let the Old Man Die” lyrics by Chuck Butler When God puts His finger on a part of your life needing change, a new standard is birthed. Something you may have found acceptable is unacceptable now, making abstinence from that “something” a part of your new Continue Reading