Tears of Remembrance On Good Friday

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Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts. — Tears of Remembrance on Good Friday I cried when I saw Schindler’s List, copiously and without embarrassment. The film taught me nothing new about the holocaust, so it didn’t educate me. But it reminded me, via graphic story-telling, of something unfathomable, something that should regularly be remembered and grieved. So weeping was called for. But afterwards I had to ask myself So what? Would crying erase the suffering, much less Continue Reading


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 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  - I Corinthians 13:1 I’ve had to look long and hard at what an angry man I can be. It happened when I wasn’t looking. More than twenty years ago I started experiencing those disappointments and betrayals we all go through when we’re involved in any kind of ministry or service. And good grief, we all know those let downs will come, so it’s not as if I walked into this work thinking it would all be lovely. Continue Reading

Some Thoughts About the Marriage Debate


This week we will hear arguments presented to the US Supreme Court which will, most likely, settle the legality of same-sex marriage once and for all. So far the justices are predictably divided – 3 for the traditional view; 3 for revision; Justice Kennedy  providing the swing vote.  Two cases are under consideration here: The Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8, voted into place by California voters in 2008 as a defense of traditional marriage. Whatever the outcome, there’ll be anguish and elation, simultaneously, Continue Reading


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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Armed Forasmuch then as Christ hath suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves likewise with the same mind: for he that hath suffered in the flesh hath ceased from sin. - I Peter 4:1 In 1982 I embarked on some serious bodybuilding, putting my then 27 year old carcass through a tortuous regime which I came to truly love. My trainer spent a good deal of time prepping me for the bodybuilding lifestyle, emphasizing what became the most Continue Reading

Talking Marriage With A Human Rights Commission


This week I was asked to speak to a Human Rights Commission in another state about the role Christians can play in opposing discrimination. I appreciated the chance, and enjoyed discussing how conservative Christians like myself find common ground with anyone opposing the mistreatment of others. During my presentation, I mentioned that Jesus did clarify in Matthew 19 that marriage was designed to be a heterosexual, monogamous and permanent union, yet He also vigorously defended the marginalized – prostitutes, a Samaritan woman living with a man Continue Reading

Releasing My Wounder


Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event comes Continue Reading

You, Interrupted

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — You, Interrupted And when Jesus beheld him, He said, ‘Thou art Simon the son of Jonah: thou shalt be called Cephas’ which is by interpretation, A stone. -John 1:42 Think you know yourself? You do, I’m sure, as much as your limited experience, intellect and perspective will allow. But in this, as in all matters of human understanding, it’s through a glass darkly, partial and obscured, incomplete. (I Corinthians 13:12) Because you, as seen by Him, Continue Reading

Three Ways to Undo Trust

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Three Ways to Undo Trust If you’re a married man who’s messed up in some way --- boy, that was a stupid way to start a sentence. Any married men out there who haven’t messed up in some way? Let’s try again. If you’re a married man who’s messed up by committing sexual sin, and your wife is both aware of and recovering from your actions, then one of your primary goals is to rebuild trust. You’re Continue Reading

The Vanishing Edge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — The Vanishing Edge We were out to dinner with a couple this weekend and, as often happens, the husbands paired off while the wives engaged in their own conversation. My friend and I started commiserating and complaining about the usual – not enough time, too little energy, too much uncertainty. It felt good to vent and be vented to, but one point he brought up especially resonated with me. “We need margins”, he noted, “and when we’ve got too much Continue Reading

You Said It

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — You Said It “Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.” ― Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls You’re leaving a trail. It goes all the way back to when you first learned to speak, and it represents your beliefs, feelings and priorities over the years. It’s a trail that’s blessed some, offering comfort and inspiration, and laid a wounding curse on Continue Reading