The Stepford Syndrome

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Every Thursday we’ll post something having to do with relationships and/or emotions. Hope it helps. — The Stepford Syndrome The power of porn may not just be its explicit content. It may also be its capacity to take the viewer into another world, a place where bodies and people are perfect, where imaginary lovers comply with every wish, and where the scene created perfectly matches the deepest desires of the viewer. It’s a perfect and perfectly destructive world, and it’s the stuff both horror and heartbreak are made of. Novelist Continue Reading


Old, damaged statue of St. John the Baptist (S. Giovanni Battista) in an inner court of an ancient building in Italy.

Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Doubt “Art thou He that should come, or do we look for another?” - Matthew 11:3 John the Baptist, full of the Holy Spirit from the womb (Luke 1:15) and forerunner to the Messiah (Luke 3:4) had a moment of doubt. Not that I blame him. The man had been about God’s business, part of which was a public rebuke of King Herod for his illicit marriage to his brother’s wife. Confrontation wasn’t new to John and the results so far had been positive Continue Reading


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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — Messaging One on the axioms our Personal Intercommunications instructor drilled into us in college was that you cannot not communicate. Your words, tone and demeanor are always messaging, and paying attention to the message you’re sending is part of the relationship bargain. When you’re close to someone you’re influencing their environment for better or worse, so clearly what you’re communicating to your spouse has a lot to do with her/his general Continue Reading

When Hurting is Helpful


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — When Hurting is Helpful “ --- neither will I offer burnt offerings unto the Lord my God of that which doth cost me nothing.” - II Samuel 24:24 I see nothing in scripture or common sense leading me to believe life shouldn’t be savored. Paul told Timothy that God has given us all things richly to enjoy (I Timothy 6:17) and I say bring it on. There are walks to take, movies to see, waves to ride, footballs to toss, and an endless variety of meals to Continue Reading

Darts Among Friends

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Darts Among Friends Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. - Ephesians 5:16 In Shakespeare’s Othello the evil character Iago acts out his hatred for one man, and his contempt for people in general, by dividing. He whispers insinuations to Othello, then to his beloved wife Desdemona, and his caption Cassio as well, arousing suspicions between them as he Continue Reading

Sin: The Presence, the Power and the Difference

"You have the power, as Paul says, to resist what you used to be in servitude to..."

Every Wednesday we’ll be posting something to do with doctrine and purity. Hope it helps. --- Sin: The Presence and the Power and the Difference I had a bucketful of emotional and sexual struggles when I first came to Christ, all of which I assumed would disappear once I was born again. And for a few weeks, it seemed they did. In the newness of my relationship with Him, and the outright wonder of salvation itself, I felt no sexual temptations; experienced no fantasies. I gave myself over to fellowship, drinking in the Word, prayer and Continue Reading

Slaughtering Hope

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Slaughtering Hope One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers exactly what it promised. Betrayal, though — betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. – Playright Steven Deitz Some wives are surviving. They’re not “fine” though they’ll probably use that convenient term to describe themselves, but they are in fact enduring their lives, one of their greatest Continue Reading

Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Three Reasons I Honestly Thank God for the Struggle “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” - I Thessalonians 5:18 I’m a Christian man who wrestles, on a fairly regular basis, with sexual temptation. That hardly puts me in a special category and, in fact, makes me nothing more than the average Joe. Those temptations don’t come because of deficits in my life, since I’m married to a wonderful and Continue Reading

A Desolate Epitaph


Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — A Desolate Epitaph “He passed away, to no one's regret --- ”(NIV) - II Chronicles 21:20 King Jehoram’s history could hardly have been uglier. First born son of righteous King Jehoshaphat, he had all his brothers killed when he took the throne, grabbed Ahab’s daughter for a wife, established and then sanctioned national idolatry, and, as the text states in general, “did that which was evil in the sight of the Lord.” (II Continue Reading

The Cruelest Lie

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and purity. Hope it helps. — The Cruelest Lie It hung over the entrance to Auschwitz, a large metal sign handmade by prisoners, offering a last shred of false hope to the doomed: “Arbeit macht frei” (“work makes you free”). Some have argued it was placed there to deceive inmates into thinking hard work would earn them a release, while others argue the saying was a common slogan extolling the virtue of labor. Either way, it was damnably false, a sick joke and the cruelest of lies. Continue Reading