Craving Versus Hunger – Big Difference!

"... appetite ... (is) based primarily on a craving for the intense versus a hunger for the necessary.

Every Monday we’ll post something to do with personal purity. Hope it helps. --- Craving versus Hunger – Big Difference! If you’ve ever dieted, you know the difference between your hunger and your appetite. Your hunger signals are accurate and honest. They tell you what your body really needs, creating a discomfort based on deficits that need to be filled. Hunger assesses, then announces, what and when you need to put into the system to keep it running. Following your hunger signals, then, is always a good idea. Not so with Continue Reading

The Gay Marriage Debate: Winning, Losing or Dropping Out? (Part 4)

marriage bands

Please Note: I really appreciate your patience as I’ve been writing on the subject of the Church’s response to same sex marriage. Last Friday, though I’d planned on posting the final part of this series, time didn’t allow. Now I find, as writing what was supposed to be the third and last part, that a proper treatment of the subject requires more space than one post allows. Kindly bear with me, then, as I strong this series out into four more installments. And please stay with me as I post each one, since this is a subject requiring careful and Continue Reading

You Said It

speech bubbles-1

Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — You Said It “Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.” ― Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls You’re leaving a trail. It goes all the way back to when you first learned to speak, and it represents your beliefs, feelings and priorities over the years. It’s a trail that’s blessed some, offering comfort and inspiration, and laid a wounding curse on Continue Reading

The Imperfect Conqueror

1870 Engraving of the Prophet Elijah

Every Wednesday we’ll post a message having to do with doctrine and purity. Hope it helps. --- The Imperfect Conqueror I get it when I read that God loves me. Forgives me, too, which is more of a plus than I’ll ever realize. The question haunting me just about every day is, But does that mean He’s for me? To what extent, if any, can I expect Him to bless my efforts, open the doors I hope to go through, and provide the time, money and energy I need? In short, when Paul says we’re More than Conquerors, (Romans 8:37) is his definition the Continue Reading

To Love, Honor and Heal

From the movie The Goodbye Girl

Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — To Love, Honor and Heal “On the other hand we ask of our beloved to correct all of the wrongs that these early parents or siblings inflicted on us. So that love contains in it a contradiction, the attempt to return to the past and the attempt to undo the past.” - from the film ‘Crimes and Misdemeanors’ Every so often the guys in Hollywood get it right. Even Woody Allen, a man I was a big fan of Continue Reading

Of Pots and Kettles

man artistic blur

Every Monday we’ll post something to do with personal purity. Hope it helps. — Of Pots and Kettles Your first thought, like mine, was probably How could he? How could anyone? And of course, we don’t know; not yet, maybe never. We do know that something unfathomable inspired James Holmes to enter an Aurora, Colorado theater just past midnight, July 20, with murderous intent. Within minutes 12 people were dead and 58 injured; within hours hundreds of family members were plunged into their worst nightmare. The rest of us are left dazed Continue Reading

Releasing My Wounder


Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event comes Continue Reading

Renouncing the God of Me

Every Wednesday we’ll post something about doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. --- Renouncing the God of Me When I repented of sexual sin back in 1984, I nearly drowned in grief over my failures. I was forced to look not just at my wrongdoing, but at its effects as well. And that meant asking myself questions I’d avoided for years. I’d been a Christian six years before I gave myself permission to start using porn, engage prostitutes, and give myself over to every form of sexual vice, both natural and unnatural. And I was a former Continue Reading

Spouse Building

young couple

Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. --- Spouse Building I didn’t just get a wife 24 years ago. I was entrusted with one. More to the point, I was entrusted with Renee by Someone who created and redeemed her, and to whom I will someday answer for the way I’ve handled the lady He trusts me with. Husbands, let us not kid ourselves about this: We will answer to God for the way we’ve treated (as in, loved or not loved) the woman Continue Reading

3 Prayers with a Guaranteed ‘Yes’


Every Monday we’ll post something to do with personal purity. Hope it helps. --- 3 Prayers with a Guaranteed ‘Yes’ I’m not big on terms like “deliverance” or “transformation”, though I believe in both. They’re both clearly commended in the Bible, and I celebrate them. But I think they’re too often misused as ways of pumping people up to get them to expect immediate, complete relief from whatever ails them. And that, both history and scripture show, is a set up for disappointment. Because although we have indeed been delivered from the Continue Reading