The Gay Marriage Debate: Winning, Losing or Dropping Out? (Part 1)

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Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts.  — The Gay Marriage Debate: Winning, Losing or Dropping Out? (Links to all four parts at the end of the article) If conservative believers have been trying to convince the public that same-sex marriage is wrong, then we’re not only failing; we’ve failed. Look at virtually any poll on the subject and you’ll see growing support for Adam and Steve, whether in statistics from CNN, The Washington Post or Gallup. In fact, according to a recent Continue Reading


fist on table

Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. --- Outraged I am becoming the kind of man I used to laugh at. In my twenties and thirties, I’d make a mental note of guys whose faces said “I’ve seen too much; I’m mad as you-know-what; the world’s a mess.” Everything about them seemed cynical and bitter, and while I sympathized with whatever hurts brought them to such a point, I also criticized them for becoming such Scrooges. They were outraged about everything, wallowing Continue Reading

Christians and Crisis

Panic and crise

Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Christians and Crisis When written in Chinese the word “crisis” is composed of two characters – one represents danger, and the other represents opportunity. - John F. Kennedy Crisis is an overused word. Family crisis, financial crisis, emotional crisis, nothing-to-wear crisis — its force gets watered down when it’s heard too often. If your name’s out there on mailing lists, I’ll bet you receive any number of letters from organizations describing Continue Reading

Those Sexy Ears

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Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. --- Those Sexy Ears The light comedy Shall We Dance? includes a bit of dialogue that’s become a favorite of my wife and mine. Offering her theory as to why we marry, a woman notes: “We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, Continue Reading


The human brain

Every Monday we post something about maintaining your sexual purity. Hope it helps. --- MEMORIES “Mr. Dallas,” the card read, “how long have you been sexually sober? And does it ever get easier?” A pointed but fair question. I was teaching a conference in Orlando last October, and during the Q and A session, one of the attendees sent up the card wanting to know about my consistency over the years. Feeling a bit like I’d just been asked if it was boxers or briefs, I replied that it had been 27 years since I’d viewed pornography or Continue Reading

The Unscheduled Appointment

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — The Unscheduled Appointment I love what I do for a living, and count myself hugely blessed when I remember how rare it is for your work and your first love to be the same. I come alongside men getting serious about their holiness, I write on subjects that matter to me, and I speak to churches and conferences, all of which I’d do as a volunteer if I had to do something else for income. My work is my passion, so I’m a pathetic brat if (and when) Continue Reading

After The Fall

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. --- After the Fall “Man is a stately castle, intricately and masterfully constructed. The castle, however, was given a life of its own. When man took it on himself to be God, he ruined everything – the decay became so extensive that only one with the eyes of a craftsman could see the structural beauty that remained underneath. Man is an amalgamation of dignity and depravity, a glorious ruin.” -from The Wounded Heart by Dan Allendar Years ago my Continue Reading

Old Hims

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Old Hims “If your husband and a lawyer were drowning and you had to choose, would you go to lunch or to a movie?” ~Author Unknown I’ve no idea when husband bashing came into vogue, but it’s a popular sport, sanctioned across the board, played with enthusiasm. I know, because my friends and I play it more vigorously than anyone else. When husbands get together, at least in my circles, we sure don’t discuss how great we are. Far from it. We swap Continue Reading

Odd, by God

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Every Monday I’ll be posting something to do with maintaining sexual integrity under the category “Keeping it Clean” Hope it you find it helpful. — Odd, by God Wherein they think it strange that ye run not with them to the same excess of riot, speaking evil of you. - I Peter 4:4 If everyone’s walking north but you’re headed south, you don’t need to work too hard to let them know you’re going a different direction. Your walk says it all. And what it says about you is that you are, among other things, different. Different in your Continue Reading

Random Ramblings #42: Remembering God’s Precious Gifts


Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts.  — A Cuppa Joe - Random Ramblings from a Fellow Struggler Don't Forget God's Precious Gifts Fine looking couple, don’t you think? That’s my son Jeremy and his lovely girlfriend at Prom Night last weekend. I’ll bet you just said “cute” or “sweet”, and you’re right, but the word “glowing” keeps coming to my mind. The kid’s in love with a beautiful, smart, classy young lady, and they’ve got each other glowing. They met through the youth group at Continue Reading