The Best, Not the Most

Cher in "Moonstruck"

“So maybe my nature does draw me to you. That doesn’t mean I have to go with it. I can say yes to some things, and no to some things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that. Otherwise, you know, what good is this life God gave us?” -from the film “Moonstruck”   Continue Reading

Reparative Therapy: What it Is, What it Isn’t, Why it Matters (Part One of a Five Part Series)

Then said Evangelist, 'If this by thy condition, why standest thou still?' He answered, 'Because I know not where to go.' -Pilgrim's Progress Been There, Done That, Thank God Thirty one years ago I asked for help, and I got it. Continue Reading

The Default Principle

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When you discover an intense experience, it becomes yours. You adopt it, mentally and permanently. And once it’s adopted, it stays in your memory as a part of your experiential history. Continue Reading

The Compartmentalizer

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"If you follow a universal principle, it positively impacts all areas of your life. Universal principles don't compartmentalize." -Steve Pavlina   Year after year, I hear wives agonize over the choices their husbands made. “What was he thinking?” they’ll cry, “and how could he do a thing like that if he loved me?” Continue Reading

Slaughtering Hope

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One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers exactly what it promised. Betrayal, though — betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. – Playright Steven Deitz   Continue Reading

Saved and Strugglin’

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Being virtuous is no feat once temptation ceases. - Arnold Glasow When I asked God to remove my temptations, He answered by allowing more of them to come, and in stronger forms, and more often. I said, “Thanks a lot” and I could swear I heard the Holy Spirit say, “Anytime, Kid.” But He also did a major, life-changing work in me. He empowered me to deal with temptation, rather than remove it, and I got stronger and humbler in the process. Stronger because my resistance abilities grew; humbler because my reliance on Him becomes clearer than Continue Reading

The Water Walk

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Let’s revisit an amazing story which, I think, has a lot to say to a Christian guy struggling to keep it clean. Fresh off one of history’s most triumphal luncheons (see Matthew 14:16-21, where five thousand dined on two loaves and three fishes) the disciples, at Christ’s specific command, took off in a boat for the other side of the lake around sundown. (vs.23) Their obedience drove them straight into the arms of catastrophe. A storm hit, the waves swelled, and by 3am they were still only midway across, exhausted and bewildered. Jesus Continue Reading

The Angry Wife

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It seems nothing works with her. A kind word is met with a rebuff. Touching and lovemaking are out of the question. Any little thing (or nothing at all) seems to set her off, and she’s willing to shout, accuse or cut down at a moment’s notice. She’s an angry wife, and she’s not alone. Plenty of marriages are falling apart, largely because of a husband’s sin, a wife’s ongoing anger over the sin, and the couple’s inability to deal with the fallout. What to do? In fairness, let’s first admit that some men and women are simply angry people. Continue Reading

Pedaling Among the Weary

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And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. -Galatians 6:9 I’m going into training for the April Bike-A-Thon our church sponsors every year. Proceeds go to send abused kids to camp, and I’m always blessed and proud to participate. Continue Reading

The Madness of “Mine”

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I was driving in the front seat trying really hard to be the driver Thinking that I was making real good time But always winding up a late arriver But now I’ve been riding in the back seat and I find it is a very great relief Now I’m trying out the back seat And I’m leaving all the driving to The Chief. - “Front Seat Back Seat” by Chuck Girard and Tom Coomes” That was a popular Christian song when I was a kid, and it still speaks to me. Because not a day goes by without my feeling challenged to decide who’s in charge and act Continue Reading