Beware the Grudge

Grudge

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. -Ruth Bell Graham   Continue Reading

The Best, Not the Most

Cher in "Moonstruck"

“So maybe my nature does draw me to you. That doesn’t mean I have to go with it. I can say yes to some things, and no to some things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that. Otherwise, you know, what good is this life God gave us?” -from the film “Moonstruck”   Continue Reading

Reparative Therapy: What it Is, What it Isn’t, Why it Matters (Part One of a Five Part Series)

Then said Evangelist, 'If this by thy condition, why standest thou still?' He answered, 'Because I know not where to go.' -Pilgrim's Progress Been There, Done That, Thank God Thirty one years ago I asked for help, and I got it. Continue Reading

Unmasked in Marriage

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Damn you! You little prying Pandora! You little demon - is this what you wanted to see? Curse you, you little lying Delilah! You little viper Now you cannot ever be free! -The Phantom once he's unmasked, from Lloyd-Webber's 'Phantom of the Opera' Continue Reading

Digested But Untested

Glasses on Bible 2

“Believers think of themselves as individuals first, Americans second, and Christians third. Until that prioritization is rearranged, the Church will continue to lose influence, and biblical principles will represent simply one more option among the numerous worldviews that Americans may choose from." - George Barna “Prove all things; hold fast what is good.” - I Thessalonians 5: 21 Ask a roomful of believers if they’re all on the same page, and they’re likely to say yes. Ask them to then read aloud from the page they’re on individually, Continue Reading

Staying Power

Armed

“By our Heavenly Father and only because of God, only because of God. We're like other couples. We do not get along perfectly; we do not go without arguments and, as I call them, fights, and heartache and pain and hurting each other.  But a marriage is three of us.” -Christian entertainer Barbara Mandrell, answering the question of why her marriage works   I know my wife loves me. But I think it’s taken more than that to keep her with me for 28 years. She also loves, and is obedient to, God. And that’s where a Christian marriage gets its Continue Reading

The Times They Are A-Changin’ – Should I?

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Maybe we've had it too easy. Continue Reading

Of Headship and Headaches

Power Struggle

In the classic movie farce Some Like It Hot, Jack Lemmon, disguised as a woman, dances a tango with a gent who thinks Lemmon’s a lady, and a lovely one at that. But the man has one complaint. “You’re leading again!” he keeps pointing out. Accustomed to taking the lead as a male, Jack’s now finding it hard to dance as a follower. But unless one of them yields, the tango’s going nowhere. Continue Reading

The Angry Wife

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It seems nothing works with her. A kind word is met with a rebuff. Touching and lovemaking are out of the question. Any little thing (or nothing at all) seems to set her off, and she’s willing to shout, accuse or cut down at a moment’s notice. She’s an angry wife, and she’s not alone. Plenty of marriages are falling apart, largely because of a husband’s sin, a wife’s ongoing anger over the sin, and the couple’s inability to deal with the fallout. What to do? In fairness, let’s first admit that some men and women are simply angry people. Continue Reading

‘American Sniper’ Lives Up to Its Buzz

American Sniper

Rolling Stone magazine said it takes a bite out of you, and that pretty well sums it up. American Sniper  isn’t a film you’ll enjoy, but it’s one you can respect, even if you do leave the theater feeling maimed. The greatest overall compliment I’d give director Clint Eastwood is that he simply pulled the curtain back to show us a brave man on a brutal journey – no sermons from the left or the right; just a stark portrait which you can approve or condemn. Eastwood reports, you decide. Continue Reading