Reparative Therapy: What it Is, What it Isn’t, Why it Matters (Part One of a Five Part Series)

Then said Evangelist, 'If this by thy condition, why standest thou still?' He answered, 'Because I know not where to go.' -Pilgrim's Progress Been There, Done That, Thank God Thirty one years ago I asked for help, and I got it. Continue Reading

The Compartmentalizer

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"If you follow a universal principle, it positively impacts all areas of your life. Universal principles don't compartmentalize." -Steve Pavlina   Year after year, I hear wives agonize over the choices their husbands made. “What was he thinking?” they’ll cry, “and how could he do a thing like that if he loved me?” Continue Reading

Wanting

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There are many men who have much less than me, Day by day, they make their way And they find more in life than I can see Tell me when will I learn to resist wanting things, Touching things that say, ‘Do not touch’ -“Wanting Things” from the musical “Promises, Promises” It’s a cruel fact of life in this fallen world that we want more than (and other than) what we really need. Continue Reading

What the Wounded Wife Has to Say

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If I knew falling in love would hurt this much I would have rather fallen into a ditch, and maybe I would be healed by now. -Evans Macharia           When a man sexually betrays his wife, his ability to understand her pain is equal to his ability to understand what pregnancy and delivery feel like. Continue Reading

He’s Just Not That Into Him

Tired.

A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Brutal fact, but there it is, and it’s better faced than avoided. Continue Reading

The Other Bond

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"Bad marriages don't cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages." -Frank Pittman While watching a remake of Anna Karenina (Tolstoy’s classic take on infidelity and tragedy) I was reminded that adultery, once a scandalous topic,  is now the stuff of everyday news and routine tv shows. It’s one of the commonest sins practiced today, so the act of straying outside covenant bonds may have lost its shock value. But its entertainment appeal is solidly intact, since the sin of saying I Do to one then Let’s Do It to another still draws Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

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Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” Continue Reading

Without Excuse

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“If I justify myself, mine own mouth shall condemn me ---” -Job 9:20           I haven’t even wanted to think about the Ariel Castro case, much less write about it. Castro has confessed to what was undisputedly exposed in Cleveland last May - that he had kidnapped and imprisoned three girls, violating them as captives in his home for over a decade. The details are unthinkable, and thankfully we’ll be spared a trial since the accused has pled guilty, accepting a bargain of life imprisonment plus 1000 years in lieu of the death penalty. But Continue Reading

To Love, Honor and Downton Abbey

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — To Love, Honor and Downton Abbey I’d been conked out for nearly an hour when Renee’s outraged cry jolted me upright. A scream in the house usually means there’s been an accident, and in this case it was severe. Matthew had just been hit by an oncoming truck en route from his wife and beautiful newborn son, leaving the estate’s financial affairs in question since he had been such a stabilizing influence, and adding untold pressure to Lady Cora and Continue Reading

He’s Just Not That Into Him

Tired.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — He’s Just Not That Into Him A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Brutal fact, but there Continue Reading