Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Some time ago I wrote this in response to the question of what steps a man should take to “keep it clean.” Considering the amount of stimulation and temptation we’re confronted with daily, common sense tells us to be, and stay, prepared. Here are ten ways we can help make that happen. Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity Tip 1: GET REAL Recognize that sexual temptation is unavoidable in our sex-obsessed culture. Erotic images on billboards, Continue Reading

Random Ramblings #43: Bonding Over the Porta Potty

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Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts.  — A Cuppa Joe - Random Ramblings from a Fellow Struggler Bonding Over the Porta Potty Did I ever tell you about the time I stole an outhouse? Didn’t think so. It was my Sophomore year in high school, and I was pledging a fraternity full of fun-loving , somewhat out of control jocks, feeling honored to be asked. What followed the asking was six months of unprecedented abuse and public humiliations, which all us pledges cheerfully accepted Continue Reading

Wrath

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Wrath “For the wrath of man does not work the righteousness of God.” - James 1:20 A YouTube video which went viral last January should sicken anyone with an ounce of respect for our nation, the military, or humans in general. In it, four unidentified Marines are shown desecrating the corpses of fallen Taliban soldiers, smirkingly telling them to “have a nice day” when they’re finished. It’s generated outrage from all Continue Reading

Fear Itself

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Fear Itself “---fear hath torment.” - I John 4:18 While most of us remember Pearl Harbor from a safe distance, Navy veteran Lou Gore recalls the events of December 7, 1941 as an insider. Stationed aboard the USS Phoenix in Honolulu that morning, the then-18 year old was cleaning up after breakfast below deck when smoke, flames and screams converged to create a pandemonium he describes movingly in a recent interview with The Christian Science Monitor. Continue Reading

Who’s Afraid of The Big Bad Wife?

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wife? Make a generalization about men and women and someone will point out an exception, proving that generalizations are only generally accurate. That said, I’ll still make one: Lots of men are afraid of their wives. Hold on – I’m not saying these guys are wimps, or that their wives are amazons. I’m only saying that something happens in many, many marriages whereby the husband lives with ongoing fear of his wife’s Continue Reading

Beyond The Carnal

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Beyond the Carnal When I feel overwhelmed by my own temptations, it’s humbling to remember how minor they really are, and how unacceptable any excuse for yielding to them will be. Esau learned that the hard way, and to this day when I read the account of Jacob snatching his birthright from him, I feel he got a raw deal. He was first in line for inheritance; his brother Jacob wanted to snatch it from him. So when Esau came in from hunting, exhausted and Continue Reading

The Default Principle

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — The Default Principle When you discover behavior that delivers pleasurable impact, your brain will crave a repetition of the impact. Accept this fact and prepare for it, and you’ll go far towards maintaining integrity over the years. I used to think that if the urge to look at porn re-emerged, it meant I was in some sort of weakened state, emotionally or spiritually. Sometimes that proved to be true, certainly, but not always. Decades after Continue Reading

Die, Monster Flesh, Die!

"For I know that in me, that is in my flesh, there dwells no good thing."

Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. --- Die, Monster Flesh, Die! “For I know that in me, that is in my flesh, there dwells no good thing.” - Romans 7:18 ‘Tis the season for monsters, and despite reservations about horror for entertainment, I’ll admit to having a perverse fondness for the cinema creatures that spooked me as a boy. Norman Bates, The Crawling Eye, Baby Jane Hudson and The Thing all cost me a few nights sleep back in the early 1960’s, but none so much as The Body Snatchers, Continue Reading

Beastly

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Beastly So foolish was I, and ignorant: I was as a beast before thee.  - Psalms 73:22 David was having one of those  days, one of those Everybody’s got it good but me, Life’s unfair, Why bother days? days. It began, as such days usually do, with envy. “For I was envious at the foolish, when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.” (vs.3) A righteous man is a struggling man, because he strives against his own passions to do, speak and think Continue Reading

Priceless

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — Priceless Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife --- -1Peter 3:7 I’m confident in saying I know my wife better than anyone else could know her, which I get no props for. We’re 25 years married, after all, so if my working knowledge of the woman didn’t surpass anyone else’s, it would be a mighty indictment against me. So ask me practically anything about her and I can fill you in, though I won’t, Continue Reading